Stop Neglecting Yourself: An Ode to Self Care


Whew, chile…

It's been a minute since I've written a personal blog post. Let me start off by letting you know that I’m sorry I’ve neglected you, but life has been kicking my a** lately and not in a good way. As we are nearing the end of the year (where did 2019 go?), I cannot help but reflect on the number of setbacks, milestones and break-downs that took me by surprise within the first six months. 

Consider this an update.


During 2018, I focused less on blogging and more on expanding my business. My website was under construction periodically because…. well, indecision. I even wondered if this was the path for me. So I prayed, joined a few creative communities and researched everything I could about starting a business from the ground up. And you know what it worked. I gained more clients and booked myself for projects after my 9-5 and on the weekends. Little did I know, I was burning myself out and focused on survival rather than sleeping. 

So in the spirit of making another comeback, I just want to share what I’ve learned during the first half of the year. 

Creating firm boundaries is essential

Who knew how hard it was to establish boundaries? Especially in business. I thought that I set my limits firmly, but when a client sent a 10:00 pm request for updates or request a 24 hour turnaround... what did I do? I jumped because I wanted them to understand just how hard of a worker I was. It was getting to the point where I would constantly check my phone (even at work) to avoid missing communication with my clients.  Not good. Not good at all. 

Thankfully, I am still employed at my full-time gig, but I had to sit down and analyze what I was feeling. The words: overwhelmed, anxious and pressured came to mind. I literally wrote out all areas in my life including business that were causing me the most stress and solutions to them. The biggest thing I’m proud of is that I’ve established a schedule and I’m sticking to it. I’ve even had time to date y’all - yes, go on actual dates. Who knew?

So most days my schedule looks like the following: spend my  8+ hours at work, and then recharge on the car ride home. I eat and begin client work, however I keep the emails to a minimum past 8:00 pm and put my phone on do not disturb. 


Music is healing, in it’s own way

Music has always been my happy place. There’s so much research that advises people to listen to music to boost their mood, and I couldn’t agree more.

These days I’m getting out of my #HotGirlSummer phase and shifting to something that helps me focus on my work not my hips. I even created a special playlist just for you. Take a listen.

You need to stop with the excuses - it’s not okay sis.

Not going to lie, I can count the number of times I allowed excuses to take over and it showed. To the outside, I had it together for the most part. I would upkeep my nails and wore a wig until I felt like doing my natural hair. However, I wasn’t working out or eating healthy at all. My commute after work consisted of a fast food stop and almost always a bag of candy for the road.

Thank God, for growth.

For me once I got past the realization that I was making excuses for my health (and sometimes business) I just decided to change. I said yes to taking care of me again and letting all that other sh*t go. I became intentional about early mornings, “me time” and planning ahead. I’m even doing a #plantbased diet for the next 60 days to reset my body - updates coming soon. I hope this post resonated with you and will make your own self care journey so much easier.

Here’s to a prosperous and healthy 2019 (or what’s left of it), and to a prosperous and healthy me.